When you are watching your kids' game, avoid the overwhelming temptation to yell and criticize your kid or the other player's on the team. Positive words from the sidelines will keep your child focused.

Yelling at the refs always backfires. Refs respond to negative treatment and will, although unintentional, make it tougher for the kids.

Most teams have two coaches, they don't need 28 more yelling at them during the game. The kids get too confused and don't know which instructions to follow.

The last thing your child needs after running for 40 minutes or so during a game is a doughnut or sugary/fatty treat when the game ends. This is a bad reward and sends the wrong message to the kids. A piece of fruit makes more sense.

Help line the field, set-up the goals, or plant the flags. Coaches need help with set-up so they can focus on coaching. You will make a big difference by volunteering 30 minutes or so each week to help the team.

Coaches can't go home from practice or from games until all parents have picked up their children. Don't make the coach wait - do everything you can to pick up your child on time. Show the coach that you respect her/his time.And arriving on time helps your child get the most from warm-ups and instruction.

Tell the coach as soon as possible if your child will be late or absent from the game. Coaches plan lineups way in advance and need the lead time.

Apply your child's sunscreen before play begins. Don't chase her all over the field with the sunscreen bottle.

Initiate collection from the other parents early for the coaches' end-of-the-season gift - that way you will collect enough for a meaningful present

Stay upbeat if your child's team loses. Your child's job is to develop skills and enjoy playing - not despair over losing